On the fourth episode of the 7 episode series, “Ai Si Bu Si” (爱思不si), the host, Ma Weiwei (马薇薇), tackles friendship and the changes Xiao Zhan (肖战) experienced with relationships before and after he got famous. Ma Weiwei recalls how when she first interviewed Xiao Zhan in 2017, he was still active in his boy band, X NINE. He was the one to approach Ma Weiwei first to greet her. Ma Weiwei recounted how years later, Xiao Zhan was so polite and continued to approach her first. Her first reaction was she had to go to Xiao Zhan’s dressing room to greet him too. She asked him if he thought she had a change in attitude, from arrogance to humility, which he said no.
Ma Weiwei then asks Xiao Zhan if there are people around him that treated him differently before and after he got famous. Xiao Zhan says there aren’t people like that by his side, but he has run into this situation before.
She then asks him if there are people who started avoiding him after he started getting popular. Xiao Zhan says, “Yes, I understand because I’m also the type of person who really doesn’t like to bother people. I’m the type of person who thinks a lot. For example, my friends now are not bad. If I talk to them, would they think that I have ulterior motives or requests from them?”
Ma Weiwei asks Xiao Zhan if there are times where friends would intentionally alienate him because they don’t want to be perceived as trying to take advantage of him. Xiao Zhan lets out a big sigh and says, “Actually, it’s difficult for me to bear when talking about this topic. I want to tell the world and defend myself that I am still the same Xiao Zhan. I am still the person from before, but I can’t explain it clearly. With life, once someone firmly believes in something, it’s hard to change.”
She continues to ask Xiao Zhan if he thinks it’s out of jealousy. Xiao Zhan determinately says, “No. I don’t think it’s jealousy. They probably really think the feelings have changed. It’s actually very subtle. I think feelings are the most subtle. It’s not like it can be treated like 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 and see which one changed. It can be a change in stroke, a very subtle change. Sometimes, reality is very cruel. I don’t know what I’m saying, but sometimes people are forced to grow up.”